I try to remember when you give someone something it becomes theirs, is a "gift" and how they feel about it is not necessarily in keeping with what we feel about it and giving it, etc.

Sometimes I give great gifts and sometimes they turn up lame and miss the mark. That's a little of why I like to give gifts, to see how "close" I can come to picking something the other person likes or not. But I like giving the gift and that's my "part" of it. I might be disappointed if they threw it in the garbage but I'd defend their right to :-)

My stepmother use to make me say "thank you" before she had even handed me whatever and so I'm sensitive to being "forced" to like or even accept a gift, etc. I can give/offer and be pretty fine with whatever happens nowadays.