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Old Jun 15, 2017, 12:12 PM
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My former T was pretty solid about professional stuff when I was seeing her -- but that's entirely because I was in grad school then and she'd been through a grad program herself and basically knew exactly what I was talking about (it was one of the few areas where we had near total understanding).

When I started working, I switched therapists as well. Current T is awfully clueless -- I tried telling her some of the stuff that had happened in grad school (stuff I'd told my former T as well) and she gave me such clueless responses that I barely managed to not snort. With my present work stuff, I have a bunch of things -- the rare few times I've tried talking to her about it, she's tried to be super supportive and validating but her cluelessness just screams out loud.

So yeah, she's really really bad at helping me with that sort of stuff -- I have a couple of people I can sometimes rely on to help me think strategically about work stuff and so, I'm sorta covered. But, man yeah, if I just had to rely on my current therapist for dealing with work stuff, I might as well call it quits.

To make matters worse, a lot of my work issues are sort of culture-related (as in ethnicity / culture sort of stuff) and my current therapist is even more clueless about that sort of stuff -- I mean her cluelessness is really laughably ridiculous in this regard. So, unless I have the patience to break it down into little baby-sized-bites for her to digest and potentially say something useful (by which time, I might as well figure it out myself), all I can do is watch her flounder and get even more frustrated.

This is another area in which I really miss my former therapist -- she was super duper sharp in knowing when someone was screwing with me (work-wise or even family / relationship-wise) because of cultural norms versus just plain old douche-bag-i-ness. And, she had no hesitation about pointing it out to me.

Current T on the other hand, does some weird, bungling, bumbling, nonsensically naive thing whenever I bring up any of that cultural stuff and I kinda want to bang my head against the wall.
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