Sometimes when women have felt they have had no feeling of control in their marriage things like that can happen giving them a feeling thatthey have some level of control. It's NOT a good solution for getting a feel of control but then agaun other ways aren't really good either. I turned to anorexia, the only thing I had control of at the time was what I didnt eat. Anytime one partner feels the need to reclaim some control over their life it definitely indicates a break in the relationship.

Remember, it took 10 years to get that broken, it doesnt get fixed overnight either. PATIENCE.