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Originally Posted by Mully
I'm honestly jealous of all the people on here who have so much extra contact with their Ts.
Mine is only in the office 3 days a week. On one of those we have an appt, on the other two days she does check in calls with me that usually only last a couple of minutes tops. I'm allowed to call and leave voicemails whenever I want but I'm pretty sure she only checks them on office days anyway. So basically for 4 days a week we have zero contact.
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I get why you would feel that way but speaking from experience, I don't think outside contact is a good idea. Sure it feels good in the moment and you feel special and cared for. But it sets up all kinds of unrealistic expectations on the client's part because especially with texts clients expect an immediate response and when they don't get one they are hurt. It also encourages dependency and enmeshment. On the long term it's not healthy and you need to look no further than this forum to see that. I used to have outside contact with my ex T (emails and texts) and it increased my dependency on her which wasn't healthy at all. With my new T I don't have outside contact except for scheduling and it's much better.