I have a emotion that I both feel bad about and I don't: being mean. When I say that I don't mean that I am catty or say bad things about people. To me that is being evil. But I am just not willing to do things that others will.

For example. A coworker's son was somehow hurt very badly. He is on a ventilator and, if he survives, he will likely need assistance for the rest of his life. I was shocked to hear it. But then this happened.... she started a "go fund me" page for her expenses... and I found out that he is in this shape because he was drunk driving. All the notices that we received made no mention of how it happened. Of course..

Everyone is walking around donating to this go fund me page and shocked and horrified trying to support this woman who has the time to start a go fund me campaign.... there were also requests to donate leave to her.

Not me.

In fact it is everything I can do not to say how disgusting I find the whole thing. If MY loved one was in that shape I would NEVER be asking people to contribute to a fund. I would be curled up in a ball. The thought would never occur to me and I sure would never feel it was proper to ask people to do that.

Plus, the kid did it to himself. He was irresponsible and she was a bad mother for not driving this into his head and now somehow, I have to wring my hands and support her?

NO WAY.

It isn't about the money. I actually gave some to this little infant on there who has a genetic disease.

But this is the kind of reaction I have and everyone else seems to think I am mean or cold hearted. I feel that way too but I also feel like I am not. I can't really understand everyone else.