I think they are both right. The first T seemed to simplify it and emphasize the outcome, while the other expanded upon it but emphasized the process.

Totally agree the attachment feelings don't dissapear, but the distortions do. (Sorry to use that word-being lazy here).

I've 'worked through' transference a number of years, and still get longings for him and feelings of excitement at times. I don't think those feelings will change. But I don't think it's unhealthy at this point and am comfortable with the feelings of affection.

I still have projections because he doesn't share alot of himself, but I can observe my childlike feelings from my adult ego. So even though I consider my attachment feelings to be healthy, there's still more to work through in terms of my sense of self. So that working through is more about feelings about myself rather than the relationship.

Good thread.