I can text, email or call whenever I like. The question of when T answers can be a different one, but he tries to answer when he can - usually the same day. If I call T knows it's a serious thing and will call me back, because I very rarely call and it has been in a crisis situation when I've called in the past.
At the beginning of therapy - maybe the first year or so - T was encouraging me to be a bit dependent and contact him if I needed help or support with something. T was encouraging me to be able to ask for and accept help and support. This was a totally alien experience for me and something I was uncomfortable with.
However knowing that I could trust someone and rely on them to be supportive was part of what has brought about huge and life changing experiences for me, in a very positive way it has definitely changed my life.
Nowadays I have this sense of stability and trust, something that was really missing from my life before. I think it is really helped by knowing T is always there and I can contact him whenever I need to. But at the same time now I experience a lot of freedom in knowing that I can cope really well by myself and I don't often need to contact T any more. It feels a bit like an adolescent phase, in terms of independence! But these are really important experiences, which were completely missing from my life before. So for me this whole thing has been really really positive, although I found it very scary and uncomfortable to trust in this way for a long long time.
I'm so grateful for my T knowing how to help me. I could never have believed that therapy could change my life so much for the better.