I agree with everyone, especially Kimmydawn. You shouldn't bear any burden of responsibility for this. Using you... well, not necessarily. He probably has very tender feelings for you. I would imagine it would be hard to counsel a woman who has been through what you have and not feel close. But... a strong man with a good heart would respect your vulnerability. His feelings, your feelings... they are probably in the right vein but the wrong place and time. And since he is married, you are not going to get the respect and commitment you deserve. It's probably best to move on to a new counselor and build up to opening your heart to others.