I'm a black tea drinker as well. (I used to favor first flush Darjeelings. But prices for these have gone through the proverbial roof. So now I'm drinking teas from Sri Lanka & Nepal.) I also no longer drink alcoholic beverages. I have mostly just withdrawn from the world at this point. But prior to that I always seemed to end up in one mess after another... sadly much of it created by myself, I'm afraid. As the line from the Jimmy Buffet song "Margaretville" says: "Some people say that there's a woman to blame. But I know... it's my own damn fault."