this is completely spot on, here today. those, including Ts, who do not have an understanding to early attachment issues, developmental trauma, and dissociated states can be quite ignorant to how simple everyday things can be emotionally dysregulating or triggering to those who have experienced those kind of early traumas. although they may not purposefully set out to do so, their ignorance results in causing more harm than good because of this lack of understanding.

Cptsdann: i am sorry that your T has done these things to you. i don't like to advise to people that they should leave their T and look for a new one, that is completely up to you. but what you should know is that i tried to work with a T who had no real trauma training and thought i would be ok...because everyone kept saying that it is the relationship that heals. well, the relationship did not heal me, and there is a reason my T is my ex-T now. if i could go back and do things over, i would have seeked out a proper trauma T and i do wish that my ex-T, even though it would have been quite painful at the time, that he would have referred me one to one instead of trying to be my rescuer.