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Old Jun 18, 2017, 10:27 AM
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Originally Posted by Blanche_ View Post
No, my thread WAS about that. Unfair, unreasonable people are usually ones you can walk away from. I can leave my bf, disown my friends, find another book club, stop interacting with my family, find a new car mechanic, etc. You can't always walk away from your job-the dynamics are totally different. I don't need the other stuff for survival but I do need my job to survive. Not only that, someone of that nature can crush your reputation and impact future career opportunities which can really affect one's livelihood. I don't normally look to my T for advice, but as I mentioned before, Employee Assistance Programs (EAPs) are a token resource. There's really little help when you get into a situation like that. Crossing my fingers it doesn't happen again.

On a related topic-I'm really surprised no one mentions therapy impacting their work. I've missed work because of processing trauma in therapy and other times have concentration problems because of things going on in therapy. I work through some intense stuff in therapy and imagine other do too and wonder how it is not a problem for others? Makes me wonder about my therapy and what I'm doing.

Sure, therapy has really helped with close relationships for me, but it can be less helpful or even harmful when it comes to work issues of a serious nature.
I was having a very difficult time concentrating at work for several months from last October right into early spring. I was upfront with my boss (different boss than the one I have now) and told him that I could do the job, but that my ability to multitask was not up to par and that I was having a lot of anxiety. He allowed me to work a flex schedule (which I'm sitll working) and told me as long as my work got done he didn't have an issue. Luckily, much of my job realates to web design, and it's something that I can do even when I'm struggling with anxiety, I kind of go on auto pilot when I'm working on it. So, yes it did impact me, but I was able to work through it and although I'm not back at 100%, I'm doing much better now.
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