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Originally Posted by scar12346
So we have been thinking, since Annie is about in the age of Year 0 (6 years) could we homeschool her? I mean why not? Carolinae is studying some larger books, me and Vlad are going to normal school and Waidth has his sporting activities that would be usually thought to be for sports universities and such, so why not teach her? So, does anyone does that? We would love to do that but where do we start, obviously we can't spend a fortune on teachers and full on books (of course for later, kindergarteners don't need much) She does age every year so she needs to know something, right?
Any advice from someone who is home schooled or is home schooling an alter?
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not to deflate your interest in doing this because my saying is anything is worth a try...
if you are talking about littles as in having DID this may not be possible. you know how sometimes I use wording that sometimes people dont understand.... heres one of those words that comes with having DID....
sense of agency
this is a situation that is in short requirement for having DID where I am. the short version it means how much control each (hosts and alters) have, what they can and cant do physically and mentally, how much awareness each has with their self and their surroundings and situation, what their job, purpose, reason for being created was/is... all kinds of stuff like this. (you can read more about this in the link at the bottom of my post.)
my point is that because of sense of agency there are limits of what each (hosts and alters) can do with and for each other.
example.... Rainys sense of agency was to handle storms, sadness / depression, sometimes suicidal thoughts... everything thing about her was this. she could as part of her sense of agency move the physical body just long enough to get safely out of a rain storm, change into dry clothing, sit somewhere wrapped in a warm blanket holding a toy, and cry, feel sad, feel depressed and thoughts but no actions about suicide. that was her sense of agency. because of this she was incapable of learning academics. why because learning wasnt part of her sense of agency. she wasnt created to go to school and learn/ play or take tests at school for me. so she was unable to do that.
if your Annie's sense of agency is to do academics you will be able to "homeschool" her. if learning is not part of her sense of agency you ....may... be in for a frustrating situation where you ....may .... end up trying to teach academics to an alter that can not and is not meant to do so for the survival of the host and alters.
Again Im not trying to deflate your interest and I do say its worth a try. you never know where ones limits are without trying, just don't push yourself to frustration and stress if it doesnt happen like you are wanting it to. take your time and explore with Annie to find out what her sense of agency is. this will help you to develop a "schooling" plan that she can accomplish, with out causing you stress....
example when I wanted Rainy to learn new things I first worked with my treatment providers to find out what her sense of agency was. then I made a "schooling" plan that was within her sense of agency... rather than teaching her reading writing and arithmetic, I "talked inside" about how to use an umbrella during a storm. I "talked inside" about how to make hot chocolate (open a hot chocolate packet, pour it into a cup and pour hot water into it.after coming in from a storm to help warm up.. she was able to do these things because getting warm and dry during and after a storm was part of her sense of agency.
by working within Annie's sense of agency both you and Annie may have a good time in helping her to learn new things.