Hi--If we were all logical creatures we would weigh the plusss and minuses and come up with the solution. But we're human, and I don't know about you but when I think about my wife I bounce back and forth between hope and fear and memories of wonderful times and memories of awful times. And when I think of the great times some of them were transformingly wonderful, and I can't let go, I just can't...and when she's on a rage bender I want to run as far and as fast as I can.