My T sees all kinds of things that I don't see. Usually it's pointing out patterns in my relationships, but sometimes she will notice negative thought patterns or my repeated usage of a particular word that strikes her as worth pointing out (often it's a gateway to deeper meaning). I appreciate that she has a more long-term view of my life and can make connections to my past that I am sometimes too caught up in the day-to-day to notice. She also carries respect and affection for me when I'm too depressed to feel it for myself.

If you value your own ability to solve your problems, what about seeing your T as a consultant who can help you troubleshoot? Maybe work out goals together, you go make changes in your life, and report back on your progress? Sometimes just being able to bounce ideas off somebody who knows and supports what you're trying to accomplish can be enormously helpful.