You are dealing with a difficult illness.
Do you live with BP I or II?
Why is anyone terrified of you?
The way you describe your illness makes it appear your illness is very unstable. Do you work with a pdoc and/or a tdoc?
It may be possible to have a more stable life through working with hem, learning some coping skills, etc.
Have you been IP or done IOP?
I suggest NAMI for your family. They offer family educational groups and support. You may find a NAMI patient group helpful.
I hope others will be along to comment. Lots of members with insights here.
I am very sorry you are suffering. It's definitely challenging. I do think there's hope for you.

WC