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Originally Posted by DadFMF
I understand some of you valid points you make. Well I hope she found the attention she needed from another man to make her feel "Not hurt". I get your vein point completely but she didn't have to sleep with another man to feel validated. She CHOSE to do it knowing she was married to me. She CHOSE to continue this behavior, it's not like it was a one time deal. She CHOSE to post it on a website, saying "I wonder if his wife knows I'm Fing hi" which is malicious in intent. She knew what she was doing and almost floated about it.
Your right, I'm at the point now do I want to be with a woman who spreader her legs to another man. I'm going to continue ignoring her, doing the 180 and move forward with my life. Every time I think about her now, my heart turns numb to her. My feelings are starting to go away for her now. After trying so hard to rectify my wrongs, admitting and wanting to seek help for us she DIDNT WANT TO EVEN ADMIT IT!!! I don't think I can move forward with a untrustworthy liar to be honest with you. She tried texting me a few times today but I'm ignoring everything till I come to a point to know exactly what I want to do. I know eventually I have to talk to her about the kids stuff, but for now, I need time away from not talking to her to have a clear sense of what I need to do. There is too much pain there right now. To not be remorseful is what's kills me the most...just admit it, be honest and throw it all out on the table...why lie????
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I understand what you are saying in that you feel deeply betrayed. I don't think your wife feels "safe" to admit everything. I remember my husband telling me that there were many times he wanted to get it off his chest and tell me. He was told to carry it to his grave too.
Yet, I think your wife was telling you, but in a way that tested the waters where you questioned if she really did cheat or if she was playing head games with you.
It's understandable that you would see her as an untrustworthy liar. I think her alcohol use enabled her to engage as that is typically what can happen once alcohol is in the picture. I think your wife had too many things come into the picture that made her very susceptible to going down this path of deception too. Being hurt, being alone, meeting others that party and drink and she got swept away by it all.