Sums it all up for me, tbh.

I once met an ex-nurse T socially that got it into her stupid little head that I needed medication. I'd used to be on beta blockers and were taken off them thanks to SUCCESSFUL THERAPY. She started twisting things like that playing this game where she'd listen to 0.0001% of what I was saying and trying to catch me out. Trying to make out I'd run away from medication I needed to be still on. She eventually 'caught me out' and declared in a savagely disapproving tone that what I had done was 'intellectualising' and dispragingly 'maybe discuss that with your therapist' knowing full ****ing well I'd completed therapy 4 years ago (it was clearly a side swipe at the work I'd done in therapy just because she didn't like what I'd said about the profession). Then, like a pig in ****, she condescendingly described the benefits of therapy as if to say I was rejected it - it was an implicit attack on my social skills.

It really messed with my head and exploited my self doubt. Did I do enough? It was only days later that I went 'hang on a second' and fully realised what she had done, particularly after discussing the incident with my boss who had known me before the therapy and where we had discussed it before. Aside from him noting the vast difference in social skills I had (which I had seen myself), for starters she either clearly had no clue what beta blockers are or deliberately decided to play ignorant. And I had not only discussed intellecualisation as part of my therapy I'd cut it out. It's very easy to 'see' social deficiencies in someone if you want to see them or if, as in her case, you have a bee in your bonnet about what someone is saying about your profession.

There are some many scumbags like her that call themselves 'therapists' out there. But not all Ts I've met are like this. My last 2 have been all about me making the observations and them just being there to guide me so I don't do something counterproductive - occasionally they would make observations but I really noticed the lack of assumptions or jumping to conclusions with them. The thing I didn't realise is the strength of evidence base behind certain techniques - the other Ts I've met could learn a thing or 2 from them.