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well.. then i see why you question some same things that i do..
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Jello, I am not questioning or judging anything you post here. I'm just responding to what I read --sometimes maybe too extemporaneously. In my previous post I thought you asked 'what would it take for
me to accept a frightening truth. As I re-read what I wrote maybe your question on trigger a little too much introspection. I slid off topic and I am sorry. I should have held my comments until this morning.
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can anyone prove to me that i'm wrong about myself?
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I think that depends on if your willing to receive and consider the evidence they can provide. If you are not willing to even consider that what they are saying is plausible and at least try to see things from this new perspective, then no they cannot prove it to you. However if you can at some point accept that the information may be true then you can look for things in your life that support that truth I think your self concept can be changed. You may end up proving it to yourself.
Acceptance of a new idea about yourself may depend on if your willing to acknowledge that you have a basic or core value regardless of how right or wrong your assumptions were.
Your willingness to accept that things change, that we change may be a personal trait or some genetic hardwiring. It depends on if you have a predisposition to seek the truth. If you truth seeking drive is strong then you will see likely see truth as not some static fact. To me judging what is true, accurate, moral, right, etc is something dynamic that changes as I change and experience new things and interact with new people.
I think our ability to accept new truths also depends on how we personally define truth. I personally don't believe in an absolute truth. I believe that there are times when two completely divergent views can both be true.
Sorry.. your questions are again triggering too much philosophical crap trapped in my head.
If what is being told to you by your T makes you feel valuable, feels good in your gut, is something that you would tell someone you care about to help them, if it is what you want to believe in your heart (despite the fact that it will cause great upheaval)... then it is probably somewhat true.