thanks everyone :/ I can't believe how ****** today has been. after writing my original post, I got into an argument with an old family friend, then came home to find out that our good friend had a miscarriage, and just a few minutes after that my cousin called to tell me that my uncle (whom I'm very close to) had a small stroke and is in the ER. Now I'm getting very conflictual updates about his condition from her and from my dad (who is for some reason getting info from my ex-boyfriend who is now dating my cousin --- that's a whole other can of worms). I'm so worried about my uncle and our friend and I just want today to be over SO BAD and for everyone to be okay.