Well I tried again to get her to explain it today, and she couldn't, or rather what she said did not stand up to argument. She did say she was a psychodynamic therapist and explained what that meant. And then it all went a bit wrong and I ended up quitting.

Since then my boyfriend went a bit nuts and forced me to go back for 6 months.

As to what I want to gain.... I guess I want to get better at living life and to feel ok most of the time. I went to therapy because my psychiatrist suggested it and because that is what people do when they are struggling with things in their life.

I just don't know. And whilst the thought of losing my boyfriend is making me consider sticking with it, he has so torn my confidence today that I don't know whether I can.

So, back on the drink and generally gah.

Thanks so much for all the thoughtful replies.