Most APs made me feel like a fat zombie unfortunately, so I prefer to manage med-free, but I appreciate that not everyone can/wants to. I've never taken paliperidone/xeplion/invega, but others here have, so I'll leave them to comment on that. But IME aripiprazole/abilify was the med that was the least sedating and weight gaining I've taken, although akathisia was a problem at some points. I'm not sure if you've already tried that? I think it's definitely worth talking to your pdoc about a change though if you're not happy with what you're on now.
Hope you can find a solution
*Willow*