I get your point, but she MADE THE CHOICE to cheat. It's wrong regardless. Either way, I was willing to overlook it to get back on track with marriage counseling. Even my therapist said one on one friendships of the opposite sex are bad for marriages. I never said she couldn't go out, find herself and have fun. Getting drunk at clubs and sleeping with men is hardly "Finding" yourself. If that's the case, maybe I need to "find" myself too lol.

As for last night it was a bust. She still denies everything. We ended up kissing and doing the usual sexual stuff and I stayed the night.