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Originally Posted by dermald
Then you might want to have a frank, one-on-one discussion with your pastor about it. Reference "James 1:26," and then ask him his thoughts on this situation. Behavior like this should not be tolerated by grown adults in any situation, especially in situations where there are clear rules about this type of behavior.
I know how you feel. Long story short, a "friend" on social networking lied to me about having cancer. I rallied around her, promoting her fundraiser page and sending her every penny I had. Rumors started spreading that she was lying. One manipulative friend decided to start the rumor that I was profiting from it.
When the dust settled, I had lost over $30,000. Even worse, I lost my apartment, I lost my reputation, and I lost EVERY single "friend" that I had on social networking. Everyone, from grade school to college, and current and past co-workers.
I have no friends and have been black-balled from my industry. Nobody will hire me. Nobody will talk to me.
It's horrible.
So I'm with you, in that I'm interested in any pointers that anyone might have when it comes to getting over this type of situation. I'm considering moving to a new state and taking up a new occupation [don't know what yet]. I kind of liked my old life, so it breaks my heart.
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I completely feel for you. I know how one lying, manipulative, narcissistic, conniving person can steal away your life. It's happened to me.
Sigh...
what I have been finding really helps is focusing on myself, on what I love, and the strengths I have.
It also helped for me to look at the good parts of the situation. I know it can feel like there's nothing positive but really, there is. Here is a couple of the positive things I've been focusing on:
- these situations really show you who your true friends are. The people who will stick by you and believe in you no matter what. Remember these people in the future, and treasure them.
- this situation gives you the opportunity to spend more time with yourself. Really figure out who you are, and what your strengths are. What your passions are. Who YOU truly are. It gives you the opportunity to be your OWN best friend.
- this situation helps you to be compassionate in the future to anyone else who is being ostracized or left out
Focusing on these things and NOT on toxic people will really help.
Please keep me posted in your jouney. I'd love to hear from you.