In court yesterday for my divorce. I couldn't believe how focused I was on the improvement of my self-esteem after our separation from living together. She was still able to use my triggers against me but at a distance. I made sure my attorney had the marital settlement agreement which would leave her to have no reason for contacting me even though I didn't receive what could have been more money later in life. Just knowing this has been healing. To know the abuse is over is worth more than money. We had no children together. I have none at all after 2 marriages for a total of 24 yrs. Sometimes this gets me down.