no offense here but sexual fantasy stuff is allowed here in psych centrals sexual forum.. when people post things like their fetishes in this board I figure they are looking for help with that issue and how it helps or doesnt help their mental wellbeing. in the origianl poster they stated they have been engaging in this activity for years. that tells me that it helps them feel good about their selves in some way, enjoys the activity and i feel their post was very clear in what they are looking for here... help in taking it to the next level of adding the element of "black bull" to their sex life. Black bull in cockolding is when a male of female has rough sex with a very large black man while the other male or female is watching. a black bull sometimes is too large for some women. so again the original posters post tells me the wife may be scared that the "black bull" will be too big or too rough.. being scare during sex is a mental health issue for some. my opinion they do belong here and have posted in the right place.

for the original poster.... I have not engaged in this activity but do know some one who does. the first step in turning fantasy (mental imagery/ visualization,...) into real life is to go easy, have a code word. dont choose just anyone, choose someone you know and trust, and that you know engages in the same type of things that yours and your wifes fantasies include. example if you just blurted out to someone hey want to have a cuckold with us that person might think you are a pervert so feel out those you know already to see what their own interests are before throwing the idea at someone. then be clear on what is allowed and what isnt allowed and put it in writing with signatures. this way if things go bad you have some options open to you.

after you have all your rules, boundaries and code words in place go for it. size wise there are lubes and toys that can help, if at any time things dont feel right stop, address whats not right then if you choose to continue turning fantasy to reality try again.