Just apologize to her for freaking out. She'll understand. That's "taking control". Everyone freaks out. The trick is to freak out less intensely less and less often by either learning how and practicing catching one's self beforehand more often or getting over it sooner and cleaning up the "mess".
You're allowed to freak out! This ain't a picnic!
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