Duchess,

Please for the sake of everything living - make up your mind. You're either going to be enmeshed and too close or you're going to be rigid and ridiculously closed off (which we both know you can't do) so how about you stop trying to be whatever you're trying to do and go back to how things were. It wasn't damaging to me or confusing me, or keeping me from progression.... this whatever you're doing has I high probability of doing the former......

EM