The word "victim" doesn't bother me. To me it simply means that the person has been victimized by somebody and that it happened at some point in the past. It doesn't mean to me that the person is powerless, weak and helpless now. It also doesn't mean that they have ever had a weak character. So, no, this is not a humiliating term to me. Words often mean different things to different people depending on how they choose to interpret them.