(((((((((((((((((((((((((kimberly))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

like the old saying "fake it till you make it", i agree with some of the others. go on, make your life work for you and your son. go thru those motions for now and pretty soon emotion will add to the motion. you will do good! i know you will.

like i said in the other post, try to be prepared for and allow yourself to grieve over this relationship. even tho it's something you wanted and know it's for the best. there's still huge loss...of hope and dreams.

when i split with my first husband 18 yrs. ago. it was all me. he begged me to stay. i couldn't/i wouldn't. but after all was said and done, i found myself grieving horribly. i called my mom. she said put on you sad records and cry it all out, baby. even tho it's something you needed and wanted, it's still a huge loss of hopes and dreams for yourself and your daughter. she was right. i did what she said. i moved on. it was a VERY positive move for my life and even for my daughter's! her father was never a part of her life prior to that (even tho we lived in the same home) he was just never there for her...ever. after the divorce, he became the perfect father...literally. i would've gone thru that all over again just for that.

i wish you so well. allow yourself to greive and go thru the motions. it will get better for you, and if it's better for you, it's b etter for little guy.

let us know how you're doing?

kd