thanks for your replies guys.

No, I do not know these friends from junior high, and have no way to know if it is true.

What I can tell you , is that we broke up because A) he cheated on me, and b) our relationship was terrible. I found out I was pregnant a week after we had broken up. Fabulous timing for sure, especially since I was told that medically it was unlikely that I would ever get pregnant. Well, lo and behold I did.

Sadly, this doesn't surprise me, the more I think about it. Several of our common friends have commented on it though, saying he is being callous and mean to do that. I've been advised that I really shouldn't make any expectations for him to be any better than this, and to be honest I half expect him to take off on me. Considering he cannot hold down a job without getting fired for losing his temper or not showing up, considering that he already has one kid he refuses to pay support on or see, and considering he jokes all the time about taking off on me.

In spite of all this, he is not ENTIRELY a terrible guy. He has alot of good qualities, but many issues as well. If possible, I would see him at least involved in his son's life in a positive way, even if that means seeing his son once a week for three hours, at least his son will know he is there and that his daddy loves him.

his only response when I questioned him about it was that I make enough posts on MY online journal "for the both of us" "so there"

Le sigh. I think I am expecting too much out of him, perhaps, with the way he is. But I said this to a friend, i mean, no matter what I do, I can't change that he is the father of my baby, so I feel like I have to at least try to be peaceable with him and offer him the possibility of being a good father in some respect.