One thing I would like to add is that just the fact anybody has been with the same person for 20 yrs or more is simply amazing. Considering the divorce rate is still about 50% after 3-5 years. If that long. We make a vow , usually at a very young age to be with the same person for life !!! What a task ahead !!!
Let's face reality. During the course of a lifetime men and women will have
many chances to stray. We are human beings for Gods sake ! Mistakes will be made , for WHATEVER reason. It's not always about lust. People get tired of each other after awhile. Once the honeymoon wears off.
If there is TRUE LOVE the relationship will survive. Yes trust will take a big hit.
A broken heart can be repaired, ( although never as good as new).
This is LIFE ! No wonder why the kids today just live with each other for years
before MAYBE thinking about getting married. The problem too is that we think we OWN our partner like a car or something. I don't own anyone.
If they choose to give their love to me freely than so much the better. Because most marriages today are LIES. Like was said before , initially someone may appear very attractive to you . But just wait awhile. Go through the trials and tribulations of time . That same person can look , or wind up , being very unattractive.