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Originally Posted by dermald
And it doesn't always work out. For me, dad is dead, and my brother and sister have been written off by me, because they will NEVER be capable of a healthy relationship. Mom is trying to fix things, so we're working on it. It's really hard.
I had to write off my brother and sister. Not doing this would allow them access to destroy me. Do you want your family to write you off, too? It can happen.
Maybe if you can work on you, and show them that you care about you, and try harder with future discussions, then they will be willing to try and meet you half way.
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Let's look at this deeper, shall we? If the OP is suffering from depression and can't talk to his/her parents, yet seeks a relationship with them, then there is a high probability that the OP's parents were abusive or at the bare minimum, neglectful.
If I'm right, and chances are that I am, than these parents should take responsibility for screwing up and try to make amends. If they don't, than the OP shouldn't waste his/her time with them and instead, focus on finding people that actually care.
I speak from experience. I can't tell how many times that my mother, who was responsible for most of the abuse and neglect that I suffered as a child, tried to get close to me and form a relationship with me when I was an adult and I wouldn't allow her to get into my head at all and she would complain about me "having my wall up".
Who's fault is that? Certainly not mine
Just my 2c as somebody who has had a similar experience.