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Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend
Let's look at this deeper, shall we? If the OP is suffering from depression and can't talk to his/her parents, yet seeks a relationship with them, then there is a high probability that the OP's parents were abusive or at the bare minimum, neglectful.
If I'm right, and chances are that I am, than these parents should take responsibility for screwing up and try to make amends. If they don't, than the OP shouldn't waste his/her time with them and instead, focus on finding people that actually care.
I speak from experience. I can't tell how many times that my mother, who was responsible for most of the abuse and neglect that I suffered as a child, tried to get close to me and form a relationship with me when I was an adult and I wouldn't allow her to get into my head at all and she would complain about me "having my wall up".
Who's fault is that? Certainly not mine 
Just my 2c as somebody who has had a similar experience. |
I am not depressed but I am in trouble. Thanks for your thoughts.
Parents do play a role to a degree. In this case, I am not to blame. This **** hangs up when I am MOST in pain and need help, and purposefully acts like an emotional idiot (like the message is not clear, e.g. asking "why are you shouting" as if she has NO CLUE when I am clearly upset) and like she doesn't "understand". She does, she just acts like she has no idea "what I am talking about". I have met strangers who hated me at first sight, and the degree of disdain they have for me would be less or same. Have you EVER met someone who first you explained your most painful problems to that they KEEP ignoring, and started shouting when they exhibited no empathic advice, and then they ask you in a f'ing calm voice (again trying to ignore the fact you are upset at this point) "why are you shouting?" It's basically trying to DAMAGE and isolate you by their ignorant behaviour, to me. Or let me ask you, would you talk to a retarded person with an IQ of 10 and expect them to give you advice? Except this is a very intelligent person you are talking to, who IGNORES YOUR EMOTIONS and EXPERIENCE. How would you feel knowing that?
Let's say after all this, you hang up the phone. Next time, after DAYS (AVOIDING the matter) they might ring again and go from the very beginning like nothing happened at all. How would you feel? How would it feel knowing all serious and valid problems you have are ignored and taken just like "oh, she'll deal with it" or "oh ... ok. Nothing I can or will do about that. Let's just wait until it goes away."
Please tell me, WHAT would you do in my situation? It is hard for me to even live as I have few people to turn to who care.