I appreciate and respect your thinking DadFMF, what I have noticed is that you have been willing to own your own faults that created this challenge AND that you have taken steps towards getting help.

The fact that your wife has agreed to try marriage counseling is a positive. Perhaps she had to SEE that you will actually leave her and often that is what it takes for someone to finally recognize they have a problem and need to get help.

Hopefully she will follow through with this path so the two of you can see if you can save your marriage or if your differences are in fact irreconcilable.

Keep us posted. Good luck ((((DadFMF)))).