I'm not sure I can enlighten you. Relationships even in the best of situations are complex and difficult. I observed some things from my parents I use in my life.

I engage someone new in simple and easy chit-chat. I know it takes time to build a relationship so I never rush. I try to be open and honest so that I can build a relationship over time. Usually, after a few dates, or encounters I can see where or if this has any potential and I act accordingly.

But even if I am ending it I do it with the utmost care and handling. I never want to make an enemy.

If things progress then after time I take it up a notch. Dinners out, movies, concerts, visits at each other homes, maybe even visiting each other families. Late night talks, maybe some kissing and hugs.

This is where I usually screw up. I was a victim of "rape." So I have a hard time getting any closer. I experience real fear and most folks are not willing to help carry my load.

Sorry, I unloaded here. My encouragement to you is to remember this isn't quick or easy. It never is. But if you slow down and proceed with caution just maybe, some day the timing will be right and things will blossom for you.

If you ever want to talk I would be more than willing to listen.