You seem to dislike your wife very much. I'm not saying you don't have cause. But you seem to enjoy talking about what a dislikable person she is. It comes across kind of strange.

It's like you're looking for allies in wanting others to have a bad opinion of her. If I made the mistake of getting deep into a marriage with a person I ended up intensely disliking, I'm be a little more humble about my poor judgement or naivite. If I selected a spouse who ended up being a poor co-parent to my children, I'ld be a little humble about that too.

You might want to do less gloating about how you're "the good one" in the relationship and more thinking about your plan to have a healthier future.