I think for me, this depends....

I really struggle with conflict. My father used to get angry and SH in front of me and it was fairly terrifying.

So I get quite scared even now, if anyone raises their voice.

However, logically I know, in life, arguing / debating are normal things. So to have an argument/ debate now, is probably good learning for me, in experiencing a safe outcome.

There has to be a distinction between arguing and bullying though.