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Originally Posted by Rose76
You seem to dislike your wife very much. I'm not saying you don't have cause. But you seem to enjoy talking about what a dislikable person she is. It comes across kind of strange.
It's like you're looking for allies in wanting others to have a bad opinion of her. If I made the mistake of getting deep into a marriage with a person I ended up intensely disliking, I'm be a little more humble about my poor judgement or naivite. If I selected a spouse who ended up being a poor co-parent to my children, I'ld be a little humble about that too.
You might want to do less gloating about how you're "the good one" in the relationship and more thinking about your plan to have a healthier future.
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Allies? When she's physically and emotionally violent to me and my daughter she spends a lot of time making sure I know that it's all because it's my fault and I'm to blame and it's for my own good and that all our friends think I'm crazy and they all agree that my daughter is a little piece of s*** who is spinning out of control, and that I should end up living in a box on the street while my daughter gets locked away in a mental ward and that she's going to make sure both of those things happen. I don't know if you've ever been on the receiving end of constant abuse. From your judgmental and self-righteous comments I suspect not. But just to let you know, it's a very lonely and terrifying place--consistently terrifying--and it makes me feel full of fear, CONSTANTLY--and also almost completely powerless to do anything about it. So I check in with friends and my daughter's psychological care and anyone and everyone I know inculding Psych Central because I'm looking for a balance to the abusive messages. I consistently get a different message, that the stress in my life and in my daughter's life come from her and that my daughter and me are decent human beings.
And yes, I feel very bad about getting myself and my daughter into this mess.