My answer is no. I don't understand how the exact details of what's happening in the sexual fantasy can bring any important understanding of the client's major issues. If the client is experiencing sexual attraction to the therapist and that's already known, that's just that. What else is there to know that would give the client solutions to her life problems? Nothing. If they were abused in the past, how does understanding the details of her present sexual fantasies will illuminate her way out of traumatic symptoms and out of being stuck in life? I can't think of any context in which exploring the details of sexual fantasies would have significant therapeutic value. I am not saying the client should be discouraged from talking about it. I am saying there is nothing for the therapist there to pursue.

[/QUOTE]I think I am trying to figure out if he was already trying to groom me at this point. [/QUOTE]

Yes. Based on what you've described my answer is a strong yes. As I said, I don't see any therapeutic meaning behind such inappropriate intrusiveness.