Update. I had an appointment today with T. She knew I had a really difficult time last week. I told her how much I hate being called a victim. She was very understanding and asked my thoughts on being called a surviver which I told her I am uncomfortable with as well but not as intently. We are not sure what if any term will us instead. She said if she unintentionally says it in the future stop her and tell her. We discussed how I am very sensitive to words used. This isn't the first time I have been triggered by a common phrase. She wants me to tell her when it happens as she will say things and mean one thing but I may interpret it diffefently.