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Originally Posted by treevoice
Disentangling an old, deep relationship like that is never easy.
. We finally purged our lives of each other, and it was the most painful thing I've ever done. I remember lying in my bed sobbing for days, even though there really wasn't anything healthy worth holding onto. I felt destroyed and broken for longer than I can remember. But y'know, it eventually stopped hurting. Eventually it healed. And years later, we reconnected, and we are now very dear friends again. Sometimes I think the cord needs to be truly severed before it can heal. I hope you can forgive yourself for the things you wish you hadn't said, and forgive him for not being what you needed him to be. At the end of the day, you're both people going through this painful experience. It'll be okay. Wishing you love and luck. <3
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This! The relationship of mine that this resounded with me didn't wind up with any reconciliation and thinking about that fact, right now, years and years later, I'm glad for. I bring this up as navigating through the heartache, I caution against dangling such a long range goal in the depths of your mind.
Perhaps that's the push/pull of such a relationship.
For me, as I read this thread and give pause, from this side of the tears, he truly hurt me. It wasn't a mature relationship as I reflect. What it has given me, is an empathetic side of myself towards other women as, in person, I see a glimpse of what once was me, as they are involved with men that display a persona that, that ex of mine displayed. Guess I was confused about my boundaries and hesitations and whatnot...
It's cliche, but life does move on. Wounds do heal.