keeping focus on the FACT (not the emotion) that "YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE RESPONSIBLE for anyone but yourself"....& continually tell yourself (& BELIEVE IT) every time you hear that other record playing in your mind.....it will actually reprogram your thinking with time & practice. What you are doing when you do that is reprogramming those old neural pathways you learned when you were young. It works the same was as stroke & Traumatic Brain Injury victims learn to function again. The mind is amazing to be able to do this....you CAN get through & out of this thinking