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Originally Posted by Blanche_
I don't like the word victim OR survivor. But if there was a perpetrator, abuser, etc., there has to be a victim on the other end, right? If you work in forensics, there is always reference to the 'victim'; that's just a technicality. I suppose survivor is used too, but it seems similar to using plaintiff and defendant.
This thread was interesting to me as we don't even use those words in therapy. My thoughts are that it is objectifying in a sense. I'm a mother, a woman, daughter, etc. But victim or survivor sort of removes my personhood from my identity. Which also touches on dissociation and PTSD issues.
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The thing is I have no problem with those words being used about themselves. It has been years since my abuse stopped. I feel like by being called a victim continues to identify me as a victim. T and I discussed the roles I do identify with: wife, mom, coworker, etc. MY reaction to survivor is less intense. Still not fond of It. To be a survivor means I have to identify with being a victim. Plus to me, all of the roles I identify with are becauae of my hard work. I work hard to be the mother and wife I am. Overcoming my past just required my mind to block out everything. Unless somebody takes their own life, they succeed.