Hi Brown Owl. Thank you for your reply. I understand the shame and sorrow thing, we have spent the last year and a half on sorrow but the anger is definitely here now. She kept banging on about anger, and Old T too, but when it is here it doesn't seem so good to them. I know that it shouldn't be directed at my T, not all of it anyway, but there are some things she has done which have caused me to be angry. She says that she accepts it but it isn't coming across to me that way. Not at all. I think a part of that is reality and part of it is skewed perception caused by this rage inside me.

I hope that if you do end up trying this with your T that she would be accepting of it.

It is tough, tough work.