Hello community,

I am lonely. Have been for a long time.

A girl on online dating is messaging me a lot. She has been trying to get me to go for a walk. She seems like a nice girl, has been honest and upfront about a serious car accident she was in awhile back. She is in recovery. Normally it is the guy that has to reach out and actively pursue the girl, however, in this case it is the other way around.

I feel the need to pull her but I also feel the need to push, so I have declined being able to go for walks and meet. I forced myself to answer the first phone call from her, but I have avoided the next two... I am pushing her away because I am afraid of rejection, abandonment, etc...

What do I do? I am not healthy at this stage either and I worry about becoming attached. Some professionals are telling me to try it and date, it is a learning experience... Others are saying maybe it is too soon... That perhaps these are red flags that this girl has her own attachment issues and perhaps I should steer clear in case it brings up my own issues and hurts me...

I want a girlfriend so bad... But maybe I am not ready for this. Will I ever be? Is this passing up an opportunity to have fun?

Thanks,
HD7970ghz