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Originally Posted by courts2797
Thanks for your help, it's just hard because I feel like it's all my fault, and I hate the worries of what if I don't love him etc because I know I do I just don't know how to change my thought patterns. I've talked to him about it heaps but I know it's hard for him because he needs sex to feel loved if that makes sense that's a big thing for him so I know he struggles with it as much as I am.
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it can't be your fault when there's nothing you have done specifically and purposefully to lower your own sex drive. You can't be at fault for "how you are" especially since you've said you've never really had that much of a sex drive. that's not a fault of yours. It just is.
For now you can only communicate to your bf about this. being in love and in a relationship does not require sex. it's not an obligation unless you make it so. But of course if your bf's sex drive is higher you would want to find a way to raise yours to please him.
There really isn't any answer to this that can come from the forum but it's not abnormal to have a low sex drive. some people do. Idk if a therapist can help you change that, only they can know, or someone who has dealt with it here can tell you that. But I'd try to make another appointment to talk about this specifically for sure.