I agree with both of you, its unreasonable and unhealthy to bear the weight of responsibility for what others have done before you were even born, or continue to do that you have no control over. This goes for race as well as sex. I dont buy that argument. It is sort of like the concept of original sin. That never sat well with me while growing up going to catholic school. I screw up enough myself to have to carry someone elses cross. (A lot of religious imagery in this post....ha). Anyway I understand what Cyrano is saying and there are certainly many people who feel that way, but for my own life i reject that burden. As far as women or men posess this quality or that quality, those qualities vary over history and cultures.