It's good that you have recognized your part (((Dad))). I agree that if the marriage is going to be worked on your wife can't be going out with other men and you both have to work on establishing that important boundary agreement.

My feeling about eskie's input is that it's going to take time for your wife to actually "see/experience" the improvements you are trying to make.

Yes, I think moving forward with marriage counseling is an important part for both of you to see what you can do to improve your relationship. Have you been able to set up an appointment yet?