thanks for the links perna.

does she have enough structure.. well, no, i dont think so. To explain more of the background situation, my aunt adopted her when she was seven months old. Is my aunt up to parenting her? Well, she sort of has to be I guess being that she adopted her. The fear right now that my aunt feels is that if she pushes her too far she will either get violent with my aunt or she will run away or take off completely.. my aunt fears pushing her too far. I think she would do good with a live in program of some sort for a good length of time, my aunt doesnt think so so much.

my aunt as well is a very kind, softhearted person. She grew up in the hippie era, lives out in the woods with her husband and dog and my old cat, in a log cabin. They lead a simple life, and my sister HATES this to death. It just isint cool enough for her. In her mind, she wants a car to herself, and a plasma tv, to be allowed to smoke in the house, and expects my aunt to give her LOTS of money, she asks for about twenty bucks a day usually. My aunt and uncle just dont have that kind of money and my sister is NOT thankful for anything they did.

On the good side of things I posted this in clydes corner too, they have had her on effexor XR for a couple weeks and back on adderal for a few days and she seems a little better.. Im hesitant to say much yet as we are waiting to see what happens later on, but shes a bit softer and not as cranky i think.