Exactly....saying (admitting) & proving your actions have changed are 2 different things....but it is a good start. As for your wife going out with guys while married is TOTALLY WRONG too & she will have as much change of action necessary to regain your trust as you do....just different actions.....both changes necessary for the marriage to regain trust in each other. Just remember also that regaining trust takes a lot longer than breaking it. You both will need patience & to see initial change in the right direction. I am glad to hear that your T will be a good marriage counselor thatbyoubtrust to be fair to both sides in resolving all the issues & that your wife finally agreed. That is a step in the right direction that she is serious about not wanting the marriage to end. Praying it all works out for you both so that each will be fulfilled in your marriage.